Women’s patterns of behavior in a crisis thirtieth

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The proposed models of behavior — it is a kind of classification of development options and ways out of the crisis thirties. Typically, the crisis begins in 28 — 32 years old, when the processes are most clearly revaluation of values and goals, finding a place in adult society, finally solved the conflicts youthful period, acquired new responsibilities.

People are different behaviors, depending on the choices they made in the twenties. It is believed that the behavior of each model has its own set of psychological problems related to how effectively solves the problem of human development.

Patterns of behavior of women

"Caring". These women get married in 20 years (or earlier) and do not plan to go beyond the role of housewife. They fail to resolve the problem faced by a man in her twenties: the acquisition of autonomy and independence, identity formation, coherent image of the "I" that combines different elements of personality. A woman can break away from parents and family, but I still did not become independent: parenting (economic and controls) still takes the husband.

In this model, there are several possibilities of pathological identification: a man and his achievements, through children, through sex and through hoarding.

When identifying a man a woman in danger of losing their own individuality. Status is obtained through the achievement of a husband and possession of things.

Another possibility of identification — it's become a mother. Having a baby is a "proof" of the feminine essence. Thus, many unemployed women continue to give birth again and again, not knowing what to do. Later, when the children grow up and leave home, the problem of the search itself will become even more difficult.

Sex can be a remedy for boredom and routine of life, but can not be a full-fledged self-identification. Trying to assert themselves through sex, the housewife often begins to seek pleasure on the side.

The crisis thirties finds a woman with a "caring" model of behavior unprepared and vulnerable to the blows of fate: it is devoid of self-reliance, passive, economically dependent, with no education or profession. The task is complicated by the development of family problems and the backlog in the professional field of their peers. With a negative resolution of the crisis can regress to a previous stage of development, the emergence of neurosis.

"Or — or". These women 20 years of age must make a choice between love and children, or work and education. Distinguish between two types of women: those put off thinking about a career at a later date, but, in contrast to the "caring", after some time, still intend to make a career. Others are looking to finish my education, moving motherhood, and often marriage to a later period.

In the first case, the advantage is that the woman is able to do a lot of inner work, which will help it to further define its priorities. In contrast to the "caring", these women overcome crisis the transition from adolescence to early adulthood, defined goals in life (family, work), laid the foundation for a future career. The danger of this development model is that if you suspend resolution of the crisis at a later date, may lose the skills and increased competition among peers.

Studies of women who have chosen the second type of model of "either-or" fairly numerous. Typically, these women are the first-born in the family, the mother does not have influence on them. Typical content of the crisis — the sudden realization that they have little time left, the feeling of loneliness. Women are beginning to see doctors, change partners, to try to "jump" to get married. The problem is that an independent, has reached a certain position of the woman is hard to find an equal partner, often men tend to fear them.

Stands out as a group of women who manage to balance reciprocity with personality. They first make a career, then marry and become mothers by about 30 years. This model the most effective: its advantage is that you can plan the event, and the woman is more prepared for the crisis thirties.

"Integrators". These women try to combine marriage and motherhood with a career. The content of the crisis is that the woman feels fatigue, depression problems, the blame for the family, and she always have to sacrifice something. According to some researchers, the woman is able to combine these roles only to the age of 35.

Often women do not stand up loads and for a time refused to or from work, or from marriage and parenting. Others find a more positive way, redistributing household responsibilities with their husbands, are working part-time, using the services of nannies.

Current models of the family and some progress in the views of society require a lot of positive outputs from such a crisis.

"Women who have never married" including nurses, educators, "office wives". Some women in the group are homosexual, some — generally refuse sex. Some — become social workers and direct their creative abilities to care about the world. However, there are women who are willing to exclude all other attachments to devote his life to famous people.

"Unstable". At the age of 20 are women choose impermanence, travel through life, changing the place of residence, occupation and sexual partners. Woman, choose a pattern of behavior, prefer not determined by the life: no permanent income, often wanders and has, as a rule, immature person has low self-esteem, lives in the present.

The content of the crisis: the age of 30 a woman tired of the "free life" in front of it there is a problem of further self-determination. In fact, it should solve the problem and youth, and thirty years of age. In extreme cases, the development may be delayed to such an extent that the person is unable to enter into the next period. It feels like it's setting new objectives, while he struggles with the old. Often women from the category of "unstable" are at risk: they are characterized by destructive behavior, alcohol and drug abuse. With a negative outcome of the crisis, the problems are exacerbated woman "stuck" on the youth stage.

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