For some, the indigo children — a new stage of evolution, and someone thinks they just fiction: that the children of the children, nothing special about them.
Who they really are and how to handle them?
For the first time the phenomenon of indigo children talked about in 1982, when an American psychic Nancy Tappe published a book entitled "How to color helps to better understand your life." It spoke of a new group of people with an aura of indigo: these babies were born in the late 70s, and, according to the observations of Nancy, every year there are more and more. So there was a term — "indigo children".
This is not endowed with superhuman "mutants" from a science fiction movie, and ordinary kids, just extremely talented, have great intuition. But, most importantly, the children, who love and who are able to think, to look at problems at unpredictable angles and take the most imaginative solutions. They can not chew anything and just put in your mouth: they are always there for all of their opinions. And if you try to force them to "be like everyone else", then you can drive in a remote corner and easy to break.
To communicate with these marvelous children, we decided to go to high school, whose director, Victor Kostenko, not only believes in the theory of "indigo children", but also promoting it, so to speak, not in words, but in deeds. Each child here — a special "indizhny" approach. The kids just give the opportunity to be themselves.
"Compared to children, we in terms of spiritual development — the first-graders'
Victor Kostenko, director of the Lyceum № 157:
— The old system of education, in which worked before, for these children is not something that is useless and even harmful. Today's kids are not ready to sit back and memorize what the teacher says. In my eyes, "failed" the teacher with a very long experience: they simply were too conservative in their methods.
After all, to work with creative children, it is necessary to show by example. And indigo children can not be taught without love and respect. They feel the insincerity instantly and the material is not perceived. In teaching, as in friendship — you're not going to be friends with someone who is unpleasant to you, and vice versa, believe what you love.
Now intelligence for the child is not such a moving force as before. The main task of the parent and teacher — to help reveal its creative potential, but it needs to create conditions to provide maximum choice and listen to what your child says. It's very simple. Do it — and he will be happy.
"Now is the time to change the parents, and the children have changed"
Elena Lukyanenko, a child psychologist:
— Breaking the conditions of education indigo children — love, trust, understanding, support and partnership. It does not fit the principle: "I am older because you have to obey me." It is necessary to ask what the child feels that he wants to, and sometimes to adjust to the baby. My daughter is in first grade came and said to one of the teachers she did not go because she does not like that, in two years, she could no longer force to reckon with its opinion, to show that something does not suit — just turned away and nothing.
Today's parents at the time were brought up in a different, more authoritarian methods. Because all the young moms and dads come already with a certain pattern of behavior parent. But today, if you want to establish a good rapport with your child, do not force it. Sometimes parents come with a 4-year old children: and they say he is very stubborn, nothing to do with it we can not.
But that does not mean you have to let things take their course — they need to do, but in a different, more democratic. Yes, these children are free, they are straight, speak in person is not always a pleasant thing. They can be very aggressive if they squeeze. Our children are in school, we do not call indigo. They are ordinary, but require an unusual approach to education.
"I want to live a normal life, to understand me"
Leah Burman, 12 years old:
— I can not write poems: so I pour out my emotions. What I really do not have enough — so it's best friend, and still would like to see more parents listened to me. Although they were so hard. But I do not easily accounted defend their opinion at home. The school is somehow easier to do, and because I like to go here. I have the same classmates are very different, but we never divided into right and wrong, because everyone can say what he thinks.
Me and most interesting when different opinions, I listen. And if all said the same thing, I do not think it could have been for a long time to listen. I'd like to communicate with the older children. I'm in first class, and feel "black sheep", sometimes I'm ashamed sometimes. And high school students have no reason to envy me, we do not share with them the leaders and outsiders. Also, with them just interesting.
"Making computer games profitably and interesting"
KUZMENKO Alexander, 12 years old:
— I play chess, and I have very good results. Still engaged in Tae Kwon Do, improving physical fitness and swimming. I go to chess tournaments, and playing at home with his stepfather. Just recently I constantly played it … Fortunately, my home parents realize not everyone my age can say that.
My mother was an English teacher, and his stepfather me from Turkey. So home we communicate in English, as the Turkish saying I do not really. I would like to do in the future, computer games, because it is profitable and I am curious. I do not watch TV, much more interesting to read a book.