Anxiety — Is an individual psychological feature, which consists in an increased tendency to experience anxiety in a variety of situations, including when there is no cause for concern.
State of anxiety — is a set of emotions, one of which is fear.
At 2, children often are afraid of something specific — for example, a doctor's office. From about the age of three, the number of specific fears reduced, but are replaced by fears symbolic — for example, fear of darkness and loneliness. In 6-7 years, becoming the leading fear own death, in 7-8 years — fear death of their parents. In 7-11 years baby most afraid of being "not so" do something wrong, do not conform to generally accepted norms and expectations.
The unequivocal answer to the question: "What is the cause of anxiety?", But most experts believe that the anxiety develops as a result of violation of parent-child relationship when the child is in a situation of internal conflict caused by:
— inadequate parental demands to the capabilities of the child
— increased anxiety of the parents
— inconsistency of parents in the upbringing of the child
— the presentation of the child conflicting demands
— excessive emotionality of one or both parents
— the desire of parents to compare their child's achievements with the achievements of other children
— authoritarian parenting style in the family
— gipersotsialnostyu parents — the desire to do the right thing, in all conform to generally accepted standards and norms.
Anxious children often have low self-esteem, they are sensitive to criticism, tend to blame themselves for all his failures, are afraid to take on a new complex task. Usually once in the game room alarming baby waiting for specific guidelines and instructions from an adult, what can be done, what is not. Many children are silent, ill go to the contact with others and feel insecure.
These children are usually more likely to undergo manipulation by adults and peers. In addition, to grow in their own eyes, anxious children love to criticize others.
What to do?
To help improve self-esteem disturbing to children, you should support them, to show genuine concern, as often as possible to give a positive evaluation of their actions. Anxiety child should not involve competitive games. No need to force him to deal with unfamiliar types of activities, not allowing first look, as do his peers. Anxious children with phlegmatic or melancholic temperament need not be adjusted — even apply for them in the usual pace.
To reduce the level of anxiety is well suited role-playing games in which baby would play the weak, cowardly characters. Using the method of bringing this role to the point of absurdity, the child can see with your own hand, to reduce its importance. Also alarming child will be useful heroic roles: with their help, he gains confidence that will cope with difficulties.
It is important not only to develop a game situation, but also to discuss with your child how he will use his experience in the game in real life.