Each situation dictates its style behavior and action, in each situation man different "takes" himself. And if self-feeding is not adequate, it is difficult to communication.
There are four basic styles of interaction: the ritual, imperative, manipulative and humanistic.
This style is usually given the culture in which man lives. Ritual, for example, be style greetings and questions posed at the meeting, and answers. For example, in American culture taken on the question, "How are you?" Reply, "Fine," as if neither situation was the case in reality. In our culture tend to answer "on the merits", do not hesitate to weigh the negative characteristics of one's own existence. The man, who was used to a different ritual will be puzzled, received a similar response.
This is the authoritarian, prescriptive form of interaction. The purpose of the imperative style — the achievement of control over the behavior of the other, on its orientation, or coercion to certain actions and decisions. As the means used to influence the orders, regulations and requirements. The areas where the imperative is used quite effectively communication — A relationship "boss — subordinate" authorized military relations, work in extreme conditions.
If the purpose of the imperative of communication does not veiled, for the use of manipulative influence on the style of the interlocutor is secretive. The goal remains the same: to achieve control over the behavior and thoughts of another person. When manipulative communication companion is not seen as a complete person, and as a carrier of certain desired qualities manipulator. Therefore man, chosen as the primary communication style manipulative, over time, begins to perceive fragmentary and himself, passing on stereotyped behavior. The use of manipulative skills in one area (eg, business) usually results in the transfer of these skills to all other spheres of human life.
By this style are all kinds of dialogic communication: this is equal interaction, the purpose of which — the mutual knowledge, self-knowledge. Humanistic style of communication devoid imperative and can achieve deep understanding.