How quickly time flies! It would seem that, until recently your child has learned to take the first steps, swaying on unsteady legs. Yesterday you proudly told her husband what wonderful mud pies out of the sand blinded your pipsqueak or, perhaps, what a tall tower out of blocks, she managed to build.
Left behind infant booties, cutting teeth, morning kindergarten. And now, your baby is on his first school lineup. Tremble, as if a flock of giant butterflies, weightless white bows, colorful bouquets flash rustling wrappers, and this is the first school bell rung for the beginning of a new adult stages — and freshly baked for a first grader, and his parents.
School life begins with the celebration, surrounded by flowers, music, congratulations. Young students, reveling in his new status, often waiting for the festival will go on all the time. However, after the holidays, as usual, come everyday. And then it turns out that in the maelstrom of school life are hidden pitfalls. About that, what challenges may face family first graders today and we'll talk.
Mode of the day
Even if a kindergarten child is accustomed to a more or less stable regime of the day, during the summer the regime manages to finally come loose. It may depend on what you want — from exciting programs on TV, on the important games that are going on ("Well, even a minute!") Until late at night. Breakfast is sometimes shifted closer to the dinner, afternoon snack is provided only if it can be pulled out of the treasure of fun villa. In short, what there mode … School is about to start, then everything will be on "the rules." However, the baby can be very difficult to move from a carefree summer rhythm of the strict school schedule. Hence — the lack of sleep, fatigue, difficult to raise a child to bed at night and in the morning.
To avoid such problems, try back in mid-August to establish a clear mode of the day, as close as possible to "combat conditions" of the school. In this case, the child's body has time to realign advance their work and enter into a new rhythm is quite painless.
"And we were told to bring to school tomorrow clay …"
Or cash letters and syllables. -Pot or jar for a drawing lesson. Or counting sticks. Or a mysterious thing called "abacus" …
The list can be endless. And nothing, but only your newly grader remembers it just before bedtime, when all the shops have long been closed. You can, of course, for educational purposes to send him to school tomorrow without clay, cash and jars to, say, felt the importance of being attentive. But consider it worth it? After all, he wants to be so successful, and it does not always really to blame for the fact that forgot to warn you about the requirements of the teacher — it now has laid down a very large burden.
Usually before the start of the academic year at the parent meeting shall be announced very impressive list of necessary school items. Take the time to stock up on cans and sticks notorious even before the first of September. And then the unexpected problems do not they catch you by surprise.
I will not go to school more!
If a child is told, first of all, do not hurry to catch at valerian or belt. Calm yourself, and then try to figure out what are your first-graders are having problems. To start talk to the child himself. In order to "talk" undecideds, do not limit the questions that can only give a definite answer (yes or no). Do not ask questions like, "Did you like at school today?" Because they lead the conversation to a halt. Your question should involve a detailed answer: "Who is sitting with you at the desk? What did you do at recess? "," What is it about Tatiana on natural history lesson? "," Who have you made friends at school? "
A great way to get information — the game. Go back to the recent pre-school days, when the game was for your kid the main way of understanding the world. Together with the child seated in the "party" stuffed animals or dolls, ask him to play for any student trying to recreate as closely as possible the atmosphere of this school. Then you can turn the tables: let your first-grader playing for the teacher, and you — per student. Pay attention to the tone with which the teacher says Teddy, as he turns to his disciples. If a child is playing for the student, keep in mind — it probably represents either himself or the ideal image, which he struggled wants to meet. This role-playing game will help you a lot to understand the situation in the school — more than all talk together.
Do not rush to blame the kid in school problems — say, to blame. If the child does not feel now your support, compassion and understanding, the foundations of the universe for him falter. Imagine — it will not be a single person who can understand it and accept the way it is!
Do not want to be and talk with your child's teacher. Quietly, without affect, try to figure out what the problem is, ask the council, which then you will be able to calmly think about home.
Often, teachers and parents, united with one voice, accused child that he is lazy. But could learn better, but laziness before he was born!
Let's find out what a sloth for first-graders. In fact, for the proverbial laziness can stand various serious problems.
- The child has no incentive "to gnaw granite of science", he does not understand why this is necessary.
In this case you should try to make the learning process as fun and very important for the baby. I am a child, for example, seemed awfully silly, that Russian-speaking people talk to each other in English, there was something deeply unnatural. It was only when I had to speak English with the Americans, I have the motivation to learn the language, it became a necessity.
Bored to believe what is 2 +4? Send the kid to the store and give him the opportunity to choose the purchase, which he has run out of money, count the money at the cash register, get change from the cashier. Here it is, a living thing, and for which you can learn!
- Beyond that, the teachers and the parents called laziness, can stand child's temperament
There are kids who are quick to grasp, but there are those that are doing everything in good faith, but slowly. If your baby belongs to the latter, the most dreaded word for it, "Quickly!". It paralyzes its movements or, on the contrary, makes a feverish rush lyapat mistake after mistake. Pay attention to how your child draws, collect any composition of cubes, the designer. If his movements are accurate but slow, then humble yourself — it features his temperament. Discuss this with the teacher and together find ways to help your child discover their abilities that do not fit the generally accepted standards.
- Special problems often occur in left-handed children
I have long wondered why my oldest daughter in the first grade could not neatly written letters in cursive. And one day, watching the way she writes with his left hand, I noticed that it closes the sample at the beginning of the line. The situation has improved, when I began to write to her at the end of the sample line to the right.
How to help your child?
In order to restore a positive attitude to learning and to the school in general, keep in mind the following:
- Never do not compare their child with a super-excellent student Masha Fedorova or prodigy Misha Ivanov. Such parallels are only able to finally reassure the child in his own abilities. You can only compare with him, and try to make these comparisons were positive: "Yesterday you did in homework three errors, but today only two."
- Another important point: do not dwell on estimates, even if formal assessments in first grade do not put. Stress is not t
he actual assessment, and the learning process, "Look, what an interesting story about dinosaurs. Good to have you read it. You glad you did it myself? If you want, go to the museum, let's see what were the dinosaurs? "
- Let the kid be sure that you like it is not a good school, and just like that, for the fact that he is in the world. Otherwise, all his life he will have to prove to you, myself and others that he is a good and therefore worthy of love.
- Do not let the child closes on school failures this may adversely affect his self-esteem. Find a form of activity outside the school where your kid would be successful, could prove himself. Here's an example.
The boy Sasha entered the first grade. But it turned out that at school he was waiting for a very great difficulties, he did not reach the general level, constantly distracted in class and gradually turned into an outsider. The child was well aware of his lack of success, feeling the stigma of "Losers." However, the mother noticed that the boy was quite artistic and took him to the theater studio. There he was able to fully realize their potential, becoming the leading actor of children's troupe. The problem of self-esteem and recognition Sasha has been resolved. It is noteworthy that in school affairs were gradually improving.
Of course, it did not happen by accident. A case in which a person recognize and appreciate and give you confidence in your own abilities.
In short, try as much as possible more attention to the problems of the first school of your first graders. To some extent, they are inevitable. And depending on how well you manage to solve them now, depends very much.
According to the magazine "Aistenok"