In recent years, views on sexuality education became even more controversial. All agree on the need to develop in children the right attitude to sexual matters, but opinions as to what should be taught and who should do it, strongly disagree.
Studies have shown that only a few parents are willing and able to engage in sexual education of their children. Survey data show that teens that basic information about sex they do not come from the family and from their peers.
Some parents categorically deny the need for sex education. Practically, this means the worst case scenario: parental influence on the information about sex, received their child will be reduced to zero. To avoid this, many parents, though with caution, but proceed to the sexual education of children. Concerns relate mainly to the reluctance to frighten the child or report him some irrelevant details.
However, the only correct answer to the children's tricky questions there. Much depends on the age of the child and the internal state of the parents when discussing intimate topics.
Responding to questions about sex, you should follow the general rules:
· Try to keep the conversation going in the most natural manner as in the discussion of other topics.
· Avoid long, instructive lectures on sexual issues. The child often can not keep quiet for a long time, he wants to ask questions and get specific answers short.
· If a child is using obscene words, it is best to explain to him calmly their value, and then explain why you do not want him to do it. For example: "Other people will be very unpleasant to hear the words," or "This is not the best way to tell what you're feeling." Anger or jokes about the use of child obscene usually provoke him to repeat his experiments with expletives.
· Even pre-school children should know how to protect themselves from sexual abuse. This means that it is necessary to teach a child to say "no" to an adult. The child should be told that some adults may behave incorrectly, do not be afraid otkayvatsya go with them, and you should always tell parents about these "proposals" by acquaintances or strangers.
· Talk about the approaching puberty should begin before baby reaches adolescence. The physical changes (including the development of the mammary glands, the beginning of menstruation and wet dreams) may appear before ten years.
· The boys need to talk about menstruation, and the girls have to understand what an erection. Should not be neglected and the discussion of issues such as homosexuality and prostitution. Most of the children are experiencing these phenomena is quite a natural curiosity to learn about them from television or the newspapers.
· Tell us about AIDS and other diseases, sexually transmitted infections. But try to do it with the children's reactions. In the end, there is no need to bully 5 — to 6-year-old child, telling him about the fatal outcome of AIDS. On the other hand, if you postpone this discussion until such time as the child reaches adolescence, it is unlikely to bring him a favor. Even junior high school students need to know what AIDS is and how it is transmitted.
· Try to baby did not feel embarrassment or disgust to his body when discussing sexual themes. Do not tell him, "You're too young to understand it." If a child asks a specific question, heshould get a clear answer in an accessible form.
· If you can not answer the question of the child, do not be afraid to admit it and seek relevant sources of information.
· Answeringquestion child, make sure that he understood your words. Also check whether your answer is consistent with what the child really wanted to know. Very well, if after your conversation he will have new questions.