Things that I can not help wondering in Germany

Natalia wrote Ratkovskaya: "When I first came to Germany, I had an cultural shock. I have already told many times about it. At first, I was struck by other toy and inexpressible purity of all around, and then I was struck by the presence in a country such as Germany, the homeless, and a little later in the treasury of the emotions of a culture shock — both negative and positive — on and on. "

  • Things that I can not help wondering in Germany
  • Things that I can not help wondering in Germany

 

  • Things that I can not help wondering in Germany
  • Things that I can not help wondering in Germany

1. Personal hygiene.

In a very decent restaurants is quite a well-dressed man at the next table had finished their meal, folded napkin with knife and fork on the plate, looked affectionately at his companion, was eating a steak, pulled out his handkerchief and blew his nose … with relish. So juicy that I wanted to scream: "Waiter! Score! We’re leaving until we were sick. "

Such actions could be called an accident, if not consistency vysmarkivany at a table in a German restaurant, or just at home at the table of those who finished their meal.

  • Things that I can not help wondering in Germany
  • Things that I can not help wondering in Germany

2. And since I started with restaurants: Who pays whom?

It is not made for a man who, for example, invited a woman on a date, pay for it at the restaurant. Usually a polite waiter asks: «Zusammen oder getrennt?» («Together or separately?"), But usually the answer — separately! For example, in Italy, a restaurant bill bring in a special booklet and slip under the man’s nose, so that did not see a woman. In Russia, as far as I remember, too, paid men. I remember the students, I secretly thrust her husband money in your pocket, because guess what, we sat in a nice cafe, and my guy left there the last of his money. Here the problem is solved immediately, usually pay separately, or only one if someone insists to pay — not always a man, by the way, about the birds. It seems to be all right, but I still have this question, together or separately pay when we eat together with her husband and from the shows that we are not strangers, yet makes me confused.

PS I renamed the post in the "Things that I can not help wondering in Germany," because when it was called "The things that I’ve never been able to get used to in Germany," many I do not seem to understand, and have decided that I’m here all just scold.

  • Things that I can not help wondering in Germany
  • Things that I can not help wondering in Germany

3. Marriage is marriage, and the money apart.

The majority of German couples no general cash account: your husband, your wife. My husband and I, too, separate accounts, but it is historically — we wanted to go from one bank to another, and then the old and has not given up. So it happened that the two bills, but he has a map of the mine, and I have from him. Spending is still all together and aware of all of our financial affairs. The German couples is mainly causes mild surprise. And I, in turn, surprised by their surprise. To the question, how do they pay for, say, food and lodging, many couples meet that sit at the end of the month and compare their receipts. Who spent more — to partner returns some money.

  • Things that I can not help wondering in Germany
  • Things that I can not help wondering in Germany

4. Go into the shoes in the house

It made absolutely no take off one’s shoes when you come to visit. People are cutting direct fire on the neat, washed the floors in the same shoes, which had just pushed on and spitting butts on the street, and can be entered into a pile somewhere. My request to the German guests to leave shoes in the hallway caused and still cause a storm of emotions. And I can not get used to this stupid habit of walking in the shoes where I wash my hands and go barefoot where my baby is on the floor and lies cat, which in bed and then I was lying. Untrained visitors suddenly found themselves barefoot on my dance floor because they were wearing shoes without socks, in torn socks and God knows what the long and swearing.

  • Things that I can not help wondering in Germany
  • Things that I can not help wondering in Germany

5.

The only people I allow tumble to my house in a shoe — the workers. I forced them to take off one’s shoes, because their shoes are certainly other than sorry, jackboots, not name. Scary to think where they were hanging out in them at all. And one day I was a polite, razuvshis worker explained that they had shoes with the special protection of the steel rods on his toes and with thicker soles in order to see if something fell on his leg, it, foot, is not affected. And if people in the workplace takes his specials. shoes, but it still happens to any occasion — an accident it is not counted as work. In general, it is possible, I’m chasing the other and gather puzzled looks.

Another shoe extreme — many Turkish families in Germany, which leave all the shoes outside the door. At first we lived in a very small apartment in the city center (centers, at least in West Germany — a typical habitat of low-income families and families of migrants), in front of our apartment had a flat Turkish family — very nice people, besides our age. But if visitors came to them, their shoes was almost no to our door.

  • Things that I can not help wondering in Germany
  • Things that I can not help wondering in Germany

6. Come to visit empty-handed

There simply is not a custom to bring something with you for a visit. If you’re going to bring something, you need to ask the host in advance. If, for example, you go for breakfast, it usually brings with it a muffin — by mutual agreement.

My German girlfriend Anke once even had a quarrel with me on that basis. We never go to visit empty-handed — always take a bottle of wine, fruit or sweets like candy or cake, or some little things, cute trinkets to decorate the table and so on. Anke one day broke down and arranged for me the most natural fit on the theme: "Do you think we have nothing to eat or drink?" At the same time these same Germans have a beautiful saying: «Kleine Geschenke erhalten die Freundsch
aft» — small gifts maintain friendships.

  • Things that I can not help wondering in Germany
  • Things that I can not help wondering in Germany

7. I just do not think that the Germans had nothing to eat or drink, I know that.

If you go to visit a German friends, it is best to eat at home. This is not a joke. We have many times faced with the fact that, going to a birthday party, we met on the table pasta with potato salad and a bottle of vodka to wash the chips. Not that we come to friends, I’m sorry, devour, but the Russian table is markedly different variety and diligence house owners.

The Germans can also come to the so-called Abrissparty — party to celebrate the exit of the apartment to which the name is almost the past month and the dream of a "fun" — and find there a lot of beer and vodka and a single slice of bread.

  • Things that I can not help wondering in Germany
  • Things that I can not help wondering in Germany

8. Towels, towels, your mother loves a German!

If you come by, say, Majorca, woke up at 6 am cheerful and happy and decided to go for a swim in the hotel pool, which stopped and then soak up the sun on a special couch — do not be surprised if there are already towels! The Germans! Do not even doubt! No nation in the world is no longer just scored a spot on the bed with the night or early morning towels when all other normal people are still asleep. At the same along the entire basin stand with polite signs reading "Please do not reserve a place!"

  • Things that I can not help wondering in Germany
  • Things that I can not help wondering in Germany

9. Your place or mine? No, in the cafe!

It is not made inviting home: no friends or colleagues, let alone strangers. If we agree with our German friends about the meeting, they are excited to come to us, but seldom to his name, even though we have a very good relationship. Is simply not accepted. None of my German friends will not think to schedule an appointment at home, if you can go to a cafe or restaurant. Meetings of the kitchen with a cup of tea or vodka and a guitar and talking about life — it seems to be a typical Russian.

  • Things that I can not help wondering in Germany
  • Things that I can not help wondering in Germany

10. Smoking in food

I’m still pleasantly amazed when people at dinner that I trapeznichayut, I politely ask, do not hurt me whether, if a person is a smoke — I’m still did not finish my meal. Now already the case in most restaurants are non-smoking, but when it was possible, I was pleasantly surprised by such attention. I’m used to that in large Russian companies, which is not going to last people were all strongly do not care if the neighbor has eaten or not. Just lit a cigarette and chatted on for fun. And it is true cigarettes and prevent scoring the taste of the food to their pungent odor.

  • Things that I can not help wondering in Germany
  • Things that I can not help wondering in Germany

11. In turn, you sons of bitches!

Yes, in Germany there is still such a thing as a queue, including the supermarket. However, if you stand with full wheelchair for procurement, and for you there is a person with 1-2 little things, somehow decided to skip it forward. I just came up with a rule for myself — I do not miss more than one. I usually buy a lot at once — for the entire week because they do not drag on the products themselves, but I’m taking the car. And then if I have a good view, good, or whether people feel that by nature I am a very gentle person, and for a single person with a can of coffee, which I missed in front of him, is built with a number of appealing the view, let them also to my great trolley. So in fact, with my then-potential, it is possible and before the closing dostoyat.

And yes, by the way, is taken immediately to buy a lot of food and drinks like juices and mineral water for the entire week. During the week we usually just re-buy fresh fruit and bread. I, however, this is not surprising, but every time I surprised my mother in law of Russia, who faints at the sight of number of what we buy, though, if we add the products that she carries around every day in the bag from the store into one truck — it will, for sure, more.

  • Things that I can not help wondering in Germany
  • Things that I can not help wondering in Germany

12. Children in kindergarten

If playing in the garden among the children you suddenly notice a well-dressed offspring, make no mistake — this is Russian children. I was most surprised one case at a flea market. My daughter sometimes buys used items for my nephew — brother did not earn a lot, and daughter very accurate Ukrainian aunt, who knows how any little thing to put in proper form. We stand, then, with her daughter-iterate through the children’s things — it is a passion, I’m sympathetic. Here daughter pulls out a handful of some more or less a decent T-shirt — with etiketochkoy, as my mother likes to say, and joyful saleswoman puts it in the hands of another similar, but with a spot on the all belly. Daughter-resents that poverty-reduction, but with a spot she does not need! On a German aunt genuinely surprised and said: "Well, you in the same garden? What’s the difference, because in the evening back home anyway pig, not a child! "

  • Things that I can not help wondering in Germany
  • Things that I can not help wondering in Germany

13. How much do you earn?

This question can only be heard here from the Russian — honest pioneer, and he got so far is amazing. But I am even more striking is that here not to talk about income, and certainly not taken them stick out. For example, one of the founders of our company, without exaggeration, a millionaire, goes to the ordinary, ragged jeans. His "status" can only be seen when it is sitting in the car, which I need to accumulate a minimum of 200 years without sleep or breaks popisyat. And to disclose his salary — the murder himself, because here there are also well-wishers, especially among colleagues who will go to the boss and will honestly ask what services N citizen for having same form he pay 2 times more . Anyway, we still manage to talk with colleagues about income, but never referred to as the specific amounts and, God forbid, none of the Germans did not even think to ask you or
tell yourself how much earns. You must be able to take your and only your money.

  • Things that I can not help wondering in Germany
  • Things that I can not help wondering in Germany

14. One cat? Monsters are!

It is not made to keep the farm only one animal. As it was, every creature on the couple? The Germans take it literally and believe that one kitty, dog, rabbit or hamster home without the owners get bored, they need a friend — ie second, third, tenth cat, dog, etc. krolichek If I tell that I have one cat and official protests she is not expressed, they call me a monster. As they say, you can torture an animal loneliness?

  • Things that I can not help wondering in Germany
  • Things that I can not help wondering in Germany

15. And once I started talking about pets, it is worth mentioning about their shit.

Canine govnische on the edges of sidewalks and various clearings here just a sea! I never cease to be surprised and cussing. Early in the spring at all dangerous to tread where the snow melted rapidly — there’s bound to show up in a bunch of flower-bed. Do you want to spontaneously lie on the bank of the river? Do not lie down in the shit!

The only place where they can be fined for dog shit on the streets — this is where there is a plate that crap here doggies prohibited. Sobakovladeltsy in Germany are subject to a special tax on the dog — Hundesteuer, and many owners understand it as a fee to the city for cleaning the feces of their pets, but this is what urban communes, which goes to the treasury tax, do not assume. If I was paying tax on the cat, I probably would have thought so, too.

Initially in Germany have introduced a tax on dogs as a means of rabies in animals — to reduce the number of people wishing to have a dog.

  • Things that I can not help wondering in Germany
  • Things that I can not help wondering in Germany

16. Separation of waste

In Germany, are divided garbage and I can not get enough of each, when I hear "in the country was relieved turbine." Fundamentally garbage is separated into one that can be recycled: old clothes, glass, paper, metal, packaging, biological waste such as potato skins and leaves, and the one that just burned: diapers, and other scraps. This is what I will write more in detail, because it is the story of the whole posting! Separation of waste in Germany — it’s a tradition, a fact of life associated with a number of problems.

Also referring to the garbage — not accepted in Germany to throw garbage just outside. If there would be a police officer, and you threw a cigarette butt on the ground, and not neatly put out and thrown in the trash — you can get a fine of 10 euros for a breach of the peace. But, of course, still many throw.

Men are never-Nikodym-will never blow your nose or coughing up fingers! Beee! For this is disposable handkerchiefs — blow your nose in them and throw away where? In the trash!

  • Things that I can not help wondering in Germany
  • Things that I can not help wondering in Germany

17. Stop, children’s sake!

In Germany, made to cross the road at a red light. In large cities, almost all the traffic lights are signs: "Change just for the sake of children on the green."

Phew! Tired of writing! There a lot of things in general accepted and not accepted, and the good and bad, all at once and can not remember, but that’s it. A lot I still never ceases to amaze and surprise, for example German rampant frugality, honesty and ethics in many areas where you just want to keep silent or to escape, if only not to have a theme, taking care of the property, honesty in relation to the past (this is also still write), and more.

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