How to get out of the conflict


Sooner or later, the conflict ends. There are several ways to get out of the state of the conflict.


The examples are not far to seek. Violence in conflicts leads to fights, but at the level of large social groups — the wars and armed conflicts. The principle of "might is right" in a civilized form is transformed into a rule of "the boss is always right."

The only advantage of the use of force — an opportunity to end the conflict quickly. However, such a solution is always strategically ineffective. Violence is known to lead to violence. That is, the party will be subdued, to say the least dissatisfied with this solution to the conflict. It pushes the hidden resistance, and sometimes to the open rebellion to quell the violence which again required. In essence, this means that the winner to maintain his victory in constant need of resources (military, material, intellectual).


In this case, the conflict is resolved by ending the interaction, the break in relations between the parties. An example is the divorce between spouses or termination of a quarrel between the passengers in the bus after one of them will come to a halt.

On the one hand the separation of conflicting fully resolves conflict. On the other, it leads to a post-conflict situation, which can be very painful for one or both sides. Finally, such a method of resolving the conflict can not always be applied. Even divorced couples do not always have the ability to disperse, often connects them having children. Competitors can not get away from the market. As a result of the loss of contact is the total collapse of the case.


As a rule, reconciliation is achieved through negotiation between the parties. Conflicting or come to a compromise that takes into account part of the interests of both parties, or to agree to the requirements of one of the parties, or invent a solution that is fully acceptable to all participants in the collision.

In practice, the conflict primarily enter into negotiations. It was only after the failure solve the case of violence or disconnected. Negotiation is the most constructive form of ending the conflict: they are engaged even after the military confrontation.

Completion of a conflict with a third party

All of these methods depend on what position will occupy a third party. It can act as an impartial mediator or as a force supporting one of the parties.

Violence and social pressure. Violence involving a third party is able to exert over the weaker party stronger. Hence, for example, went to practice seek the help of gang or mafia-like "roof."

Court. Judicial settlement of the conflict is not based on subjective views of the parties on the righteous and on the system of law and public authorities. However, the judgment of conflict has its advantages and disadvantages. On the one hand, the court — this is an important achievement of civilization. On the other hand, there is no code of law can not account for all the possible nuances of human relationships — he is forced to adjust them under a certain standard. Second, there are loopholes in the law to allow replay the situation in their favor. Finally, the fairness of the decision depends not only on the application of the law, but also on the ability of the judiciary to deeply understand the essence of the matter.

Arbitration. The role of the third party to trust the person (or group), the solution of which both parties undertake to submit to. The main thing — that the conflicting parties are willing to voluntarily comply with the arbitration award.

Winning and losing in the conflict

Parties to the conflict are usually considered his end as a success or failure depending on whether achievement of its objectives or not. This gives rise to the impression that if one side won — then the other necessarily lost. In fact it is not. That is, the situation is "win — lose", of course, exist, but in addition it has two more.

Loss — a loss. "May I die, but he, too, will die" — this attitude is not uncommon. It happens that one of the opponents, realizing the impossibility to achieve their goals, doing everything to "drown" and his opponent. "

Win — Win. The parties offer each other cooperation in resolving the conflict. Area of disagreement is not perceived as a field of battle, but as a work platform for finding optimal solutions.

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