Interest expectant mothers for everything that is related to pregnancy, childbirth and the future baby's life is huge. But where to find a companion? Female doctor consultation refers to the fact that time is short, and a lot of patients. Her friends still do not think about the baby. The questions are many, and even more fears. "Will I give birth normally? Vyterplyu the pain? Are all be okay with the baby? Cope with caring for a newborn baby?"
Pregnant women are incredibly suggestible. One wrong word can hurt future mother (and therefore the baby), whereas now it needs a full psychological comfort. In search of comfort pregnant women — pregnant women or couples — go to the school of motherhood.
Who needs it
"You do not need it," — said my grandmother when I was pregnant. "All gave birth — and you will give birth, there is not much intelligence is required." I did not listen to my grandmother's advice and do not regret it. It is necessary for all pregnant women — to make myself not to be afraid of childbirth, preparing for them in advance, find out how, caring for a newborn, to find time for herself and her husband, etc.
Of course, you can buy books, addressed to moms — in the lack of such literature is not available. But no book can replace the live communication, especially with like-minded people. Sometimes a woman comes into the hands of manual devoted mainly pathology and complications during pregnancy and childbirth. Naturally, she begins to suspect at all complications combined. And it threatens not only her stress — self-hypnosis can lead to this disease, even a healthy person. A nice, smooth mood — a guarantee that the pregnancy will proceed normally and bring joy.
What are the schools
School of motherhood are of two types: some exist in hospitals and antenatal clinics, others — it centers where comprehensive training of parents to the appearance of the baby. Courses at the hospitals doctors will tell you about the psychology of pregnancy, childbirth and the early days of baby's life. Maternity centers represent more clubs, where lectures and classes in the pool, where they play with young children, as well as organized joint, joint holidays. Pregnant women are engaged in such centers specially designed exercises and even aerobics. Classes are taught by professional midwives, who can give a phone number where you can contact them at almost any time if the need arises.
In these schools is better to come no later than 20-22 weeks of pregnancy, as a series of classes designed primarily for 3 months. Each occupation includes a lecture, where you can ask any question and to view the movie. To this is added to the sounds of relaxation exercises, soft music. For gymnastics and sports in the water allocated a special day (or even two) as swimming for pregnant women is extremely useful: the water is removed the load on the spine. The lectures will tell you how to build a marital relationship during pregnancy, as well as what to eat, how to behave during labor and then take care of the baby.
In school, you master the techniques of motherhood samoobezbolivaniya and proper breathing, which in childbirth, perhaps, the most important thing. On the other classes mums draw, sing, make their own hands and toys in general — offer such a capacity, which never existed. Here they are friends with whom to communicate and continue after the baby is born, when questions and concerns are growing with the speed of the snowball.
And, of course, most important, the most significant — they do not sit at home, alone with his thoughts is not easy. All the sadness and doubt blurt out loud and thus removed. Nothing prevents future mothers tender and activities to "communicate" with the baby, preparing for his birth.
Do not panic
Perhaps the birth — this is what awaits every woman is afraid, especially if it happens to her for the first time. Numerous stories of how painful and awful, do not add confidence. Meanwhile, childbirth can be a holiday, which you will remember for life. One of my friends said the midwife, who has just taken her baby: "What a pity that it was all over! I'd like to have." And she's not a masochist. She just knew what to do. Next to her was her husband, which supported her whole being, helping to give birth to a desired child.
Together with her husband
Do I need to take classes with her husband? In many schools, it is welcome, considering that it is necessary to prepare for the birth not only to the future mother, but also the future pope. However, the courses at the women's clinic, I was told that pregnancy and childbirth — a particularly feminine thing, and men do not belong here. Whom to believe — decide for yourself. If her husband will attend with you, he will better understand your condition, will understand why should carefully and condescendingly refer to the unevenness of your mood, to the little quirks. Obstetricians who teach classes, trying to help the couple get together so serious in their life, do not lose understanding. Practice has shown that husbands happy to go to such a class, and then to really help his wife in childbirth. After all, for them pregnancy beloved — a test. The men in this time of fear gripping many in which they, of course, no one recognized. That's why, as the husband nor regarded the idea of a joint visit to the school, at least for the first lesson he'd better come. In addition, a man can more soberly assess the situation, figure out all the details before you lay out a tidy sum, which will cost you visit this school.
After the birth
As a general rule, obstetricians come to his "girls" on the post-natal nursing and help the family adapt to a new life — with a newborn. When baby grows up with him will be to go to a special children's pool, and a half a year — on developmental activities. You can also invite home neonatologists, which examine the child and give tips on caring for and breastfeeding. Almost all schools are promoting long breastfeeding and help mom and baby to make the process enjoyable for both.
From a medical point of view
The idea of creating such courses before incarnate, was in the air for a long time. And she realized. Doctors in one voice say that trained and meaningfully related to childbirth women give birth more easily than those who did not have the training. They do not panic, do not fly around, interact well with medical staff. They know exactly what they need to do at any given moment. With large schools of motherhood cooperate variety of experts — gynecologists and specialists in ultrasound diagnostics, neonatologists, pediatricians, homeopaths, chiropractors, family physicians.
In other schools use non-traditional methods of correction of a variety of disorders: color therapy, aromatherapy, and even art therapy. It goes without saying that future mothers are in close contact professional psychologists and psychotherapists. Many schools cooperate with the hospital, where, and send their "graduates". Sometimes this cooperation is a significant discount in the contract for paid labor.
What to look for
The first occupation in most schools is free. You can come and meet with the midwives who will work with you. They are usually sweet, friendly, considerate people. Still, it is worth wondering, if they have a medical education: the confessor and the obstetrician-gynecologist — different specialty.
If in the course program includes gymnastics and swimming pool, find out what exactly that means. Exercises twice a week for an hour with a professional instructor — this one, and a short warm-up at the beginning of class — is quite another. Find out exactly where the pool is located, and do not be lazy to go there. Under a loud word "pool" may be hiding a modest splash in one of the kindergartens.
What gives the following courses of preparation for childbirth?
- Women get more information about what is happening in their body during pregnancy and childbirth, and they are not afraid to give birth.
- Moms-to-adjust to breastfeeding — their children are much less likely to be bottle-fed.
- Husbands who "for the company," attended the courses of preparation for childbirth, feel much more confident when present at birth, and may have a lot of support to wives.
- In the courses has a relaxed, friendly atmosphere, dramatically different from the inhospitable environment and antenatal clinics.
- Here, couples can find their friends or good friends.
- Many women become supporters of the so-called "natural approach to pregnancy and childbirth," do not trust the doctors and trying to give birth at home, despite the fact that it is very unsafe.
- Many of the recommendations in the courses are rather controversial.
- Courses do not bear any legal responsibility for the advice and the advice they give.