Age crises

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Usually the word "age crisis" we associate with difficult adult life. But it turns out he is also in children. And most importantly, you need to understand yourself — after all, a period of peak peaceful and stable development. Until next time. And who promised it would be easy? But not so terrible crisis, as he is painted, if you are clear about why and what happens to your child.

Traditionally, decided to allocate crisis one year, three and seven. As for the famous crisis of adolescence, the age for it is difficult to determine — every child develops on its way. Because adolescence is all entirely, with rare exceptions, is unstable, the signs of the crisis may occur at different times, starting with theten or eleven years.

The symptoms of the crisis is always linked to the problem of the self — or can not, or I someone instead of me. Chief question, to which the child responds itself at a critical period — the question of "who am I". The second question of any crisis, "What can I? '. Abilities, skills and abilities of children are increasing continuously. Every day your child is becoming more independent. But the answer yourself honestly — are you ready for this increasing independence?

For example, mom and dad think that baby quite another pipsqueak, he only eleven months to go too early, let creep into the arena. A baby cries, he wants to explore everything in the house, he begins to make small steps, whines and demands that someone was always there to help, support. Or three-year child wants most, without a mother and grandmother to decide when it's time to dress, and when — to walk. We adults believe that baby still too small to make decisions, insist on his back and get obstinacy, whims, tears … and wonder, "What is going on with him? Only yesterday was an obedient and quiet child? '.

But it's great to be obedient? Always blindly and literally perform "recommendations" and "advice" that roll in on you from all sides: from my grandmother and mother, then by educators, teachers, friends, husband or wife, neighbor or boss? However, you would not want your child to go on this way? This means that you have to put up with disobedience, so that baby learning to speak and do differently, in its own way, not the way you explained requested.

Now you know that your little "practicing" in the new behavior, and this behavior is absolutely necessary to him for further growth and development.

Based on the book O.Shelopuho "Popular Psychology for parents. What is your baby?"SPb.-M. 2006

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